As I’ve written about in numerous other places on this blog, one of the more common situations I see in my practice is when a couple has been destabilized or thrown into crisis due to a new revelation from one of the partners about their sexuality. Some years ago, the most common type of revelation involved orientation, in which typically the male partner would be discovered or would initiate disclosure that he was gay. This was more common back before the kind of social acceptance that we are privy to now, but I certainly still do work with a number of men that still struggle in their coming out process.
Nonetheless, these days I’m seeing more of a trend of “coming out” issues revolving around sexual interests such as kink/BDSM and nonmonogamy. Just as social mores around orientation have evolved, so has this social awareness affected other forms of sexuality, such as BDSM, polyamory, swinging, and other forms of non-traditional relationships. As part of this process, media, in the form of magazines, books, and television and film have shed light or even popularized such “alternative” types of relationships. With 50 Shades of Grey selling more than 125 million book copies and the movie version grossing more than $500 million at the box office, it is no surprise that a growing number of people are becoming more aware, less judgmental, and more curious to explore new sexual behaviors within their own lives. Much of my own work, including my book Modern Sexuality and my Psychology Today column, has been in the service of helping individuals process and integrate new understandings of sexuality into their own lives and relationships
However, with all of these social changes afoot, mental health clinicians such as psychiatrists, psychologists, and social workers still do not get enough training in sexuality, let alone alternative forms of sexuality. With this in mind, I have worked to establish training programs to assist clinicians that recognize they may need additional continuing education in working with patients/clients that bring up sexuality concerns in session. The Alt Sex NYC Conference, held every spring in midtown Manhattan and the Sexuality Speaker Series, which I both co-founded with sexologist Dulcinea Pitagora, offers live training.
But not everybody can make it to NYC, and many more need an extended, comprehensive program that provides a deeper dive than any one conference alone can provide. So, after many months of discussions and planning, I am happy to announce a new certification program in “Alternative Relationships”, in collaboration with the Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. This 50 credit program provides 20 hours of case consultation and can be taken remotely from home via live or recorded streaming video. I have recruited some of the greatest minds and respected experts in the field and, together, I believe we’ve created one of the finest and most rigorous programs available. I’ve provided a more thorough description of the program below. Also feel free to go directly to the training page to read more about what the program offers.
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Modern Sex Therapy Institutes and Michael Aaron, Ph.D. are proud to announce the first ever Alternative Relationships Certification Program!
This 50-hour certification program comes with 20 hours of case consultation with Drs. Michel Aaron, Rachel Needle, and Ricky Siegel. Licensed clinicians can receive continuing education credits. Attend one course or the full program! The courses are all available fully online using our state of the art learning platform making participation convenient for you. Scroll down for more information including a list of courses offered.
For the upcoming live workshop calendar please visit https://modernsextherapyinstitutes.com/news-events/#alternative-relationships-upcoming-workshops
Course | Presenter | Hours |
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Introduction to Alternative Sexualities and Working with Relational Systems | Michael Aaron, Ph.D. | 3 |
Understanding Non-Monogamy | Zhana Vrangalova, Ph.D. | 2 |
Working with Relationships Transitioning into Alternative Structures/Expressions | Michael Aaron, Ph.D. | 3 |
Introduction to BDSM and Kink | Rhoda Lipscomb, Ph.D. | 2 |
Alternative Sexual Expression and Desire Discordance (Working with couples with varying sexual interests) | Michael Aaron, Ph.D. | 2 |
Working with Ego-Dystonic Sexual Expressions | Michael Aaron, Ph.D. | 2 |
Specific Clinical Issues with Polyamorous & Non-Monogomous Relationships | Margie Nichols, Ph.D. | 2 |
Specific Clinical Issues with BDSM/Kink | Rhoda Lipscomb, Ph.D. | 3 |
Integrating Kink with Harm Reduction and other Therapeutic Modalities | Michael Aaron, Ph.D. | 2 |
Clinical Issues Around Negotiating Consent | Emily Prior, M.A. | 3 |
Kink as Normal – Helping clients embrace their authentic Kink desires | Galen Fous, MTP | 3 |
Unique Subcultures (Furries, otherkin, vampyres, etc) 40 minutes each | Courtney Plante | 1 |
Understanding Sex Work and Sex Workers | Emily Prior, M.A. | 3 |
AltSex and Gender Non-Conforming Individuals | Lucien Felding, Ph.D. | 2 |
Typical Issues Working w/BDSM & Kink (sex ed) | Emily Prior | 2 |
Understanding the Spectrum of Gender Expression | Don Dyson, Ph.D. | 3 |
Understanding the Spectrum of Orientation Expression | Brent Satterly, Ph.D. | 3 |
Authority-Based Relationships | TBD | 2 |
Intro to Polyamory | Jim Fleckenstein | 2 |
Poly course on dos and don’ts for therapists on working w/poly relationships | Jim Fleckenstein | 2 |
Psychodynamics, Archetypes, the Unconcious and Kink | Galen Fous, MTP | 3 |
Psychobiology of BDSM | Edwin Perez, M.D. | 1 |
We are 63, happily married until my husband made some disclosures. He been seeing prostitutes during the our 6 yr premarital relationship.He has been a porn addict since age ten.His sexual choice is deep throat oral sex. I wd had left him at the movie theatre in 1974 had I known any of this. When he met me, his first girlfriend, he felt nothing for me so he intensified his porn genre with the deep oral sex. He did not take precautions with prostitutes, so after our 1980 wedding, I developed 8 stds. I am a nurse, but I am also a woman who had been sexually abused by a dentist at age 5. So my life experience has taught me well stuff overwhelming memories into a box, tie with a string and push it far back in the attic of my memory. So I have suffered for 20 months after Discovery-day. All thru this, he has never loved another woman. Love and sex are forever divided in his mind. He has never been with another woman since we married. When I co fro ted him @ stds, he blamed me! I had never been with anyone else. He loves me, and ne has been a gread dad. No sex for past 15 yrs b/c he lied that Celexa 40mg ruined his libido. He regularly viewed porn , his genre. So right now I accept no-sex marriage. He has no libido at 40 mg Celexa. And I am sick of knowing I refuse to provide the only sex that matters to him. It is too much of a risk to our marriage. He needs the chemical castration and no longer wants the world of porn. We had 25 yrs of good, but infrequent sex. Porn was his preference. He never asked me flr sex. I see him as developmentally arrested in sex at puberty. He never fused sex and love. I am ready to take an asexual relationship as long as he does not masturbate to videos of porn. That cannot be a part of our marriage. I lost both breasts preventatively. I wish I kept one breast,but he was permanently on a Celexa dose that killed his libido. I hate he did not deter me. He was downstairs for hrs, wkly, masturbating to porn. I consider it Chemical castration now. And I will live with that. Despite all this, I know he loves me. He is a sex addict. No empathy for me when pursuing his addict substance. But no interest in any sex when on Celexa 40 mg.He wd treat Miss America the same way as me. And he wd not want to e married to a woman who talks filthy during sex , and performs the deep, oral sex. Swallowing it is an extra benefit! Maybe wives do this. Whatever two consenting adults do. I wonder if prostitutes feel they are doing the dirty work that girlfriends won,t do. I wd have walked away from the relationship if I knew his prefererences early on.We live in NJ. I feel incredibly inadequate. He has repented for what he has done to me.Glad i did not get herpes or hepatitis. I feel like a human cesspool when I think back. The UTI lasted 2 yrs and is now considered a STD. My husband had no symptoms. His whores did not wear condoms but his wife did!! I never knew I needed protection so I was fine with non latex condoms. For the honorable man! He was sexually abused as a child, early puberty at ten and overexposure to porn magazines.