Go check out a great, and I mean GREAT, absolutely fascinating article in the May issue of Upscale Magazine, entitled “Secret Lovers,” in which I am interviewed regarding the hush hush world of the swinger subculture.  The writer does a really good job of trying to understand the psychology of folks who practice consensual non-monogamy and I think the piece is very even-handed, with some practical tips for couples who are curious about dipping their toes in the lifestyle. I’ll leave you with a quote from one of the swingers profiled in the piece, which I think gives a good feel for the tone and depth of the article– “I love to see her with two guys and two girls at once. I enjoy submissive women, and there is no sexier submission than to watch my wife please me by pleasing others.”  If that sounds interesting, then I suggest you head out and grab a copy. It’s well worth the read.